"I have found him" - the woman with the red hat said. "Yes, it is him" she continued as if she was replying to someone on the other end of the line. "I will get back to you with the rest" - she said and ended the phone call. The coffee house was unusually quiet today. The lady on the other end of the table heard everything. However the lady on the laptop did not realize that. "What's going on?" - the lady thought. "Are they following someone? Is this someone married? Do they want to see if he is seeing another woman? Why would they follow/stalk someone?" Everything felt so weird to her. Especially the fact that this lady was so loud, in a coffee shop, saying that she found someone. "How strange..." she thought. "or maybe pathetic?" She gave it a thought but still did not know how to describe what she witnessed. "Was she a detective?" - she thought. She gave a second glance at the lady with the red hat...
Ever caught yourself comparing your work, life, relationships, outfits etc. to others? How did that make you feel? Was that a pleasant feeling for you? According to Psychology's Today article " Social Comparison Theory " almost 10% of our thoughts consist mainly of comparisons. The article suggests that comparing ourselves to others can have both a positive and a negative outcome, depending on your approach. On the one hand comparisons can motivate us to become and do better since we evaluate our worth compared to others. On the other hand it can make us feel competitive, judgmental and envious. The same article mentions that social media can also make us feel that our lives are not as exciting as others, or even fear that we are missing out on life. Hanna Rose in her article in Psychology Today entitled " Why You Should Stop Comparing Yourself to Everybody Else " argues that everything you compare yourself to has struggles and pain that you do not know ab...