Can Men Survive Feminism?

When the Suffragettes created organisations to empower women; men were very supportive.
They were involved in fighting for the equal rights between both sexes, (see blog: A Brief History of Feminism) and are still involved today.
However a sense of uncertainty is in the atmosphere.

Men are not sure what they role is in the 21st century society.

As women get more powerful, independent and take on leadership roles men seem to step back, sit comfortably and watch.
Women start making the first moves in dating and men stop putting in the effort.

I didn't really understand that until I had a conversation with one of my guy friends.
He told me:

'Whenever I see a woman I like, I hesitate to approach her. These feminist movements have made women really aggressive when it comes to dating. They will insult and humiliate you in front of your friends! What's the point in me trying to make the first move again?'

These words put me into thinking.
On the one hand, women do not have to say yes every time a man approaches them (there are some very creepy men out there).

But at the same time almost all heterosexual women want to feel safe, next to someone that is not afraid to make them feel wanted. They want men to make the first move, flirt with them, chase them and conquer them. That is what the 'ritual' of dating is all about. Isn't it?

So why don't we (modern women) respect the fact that men can be vulnerable to?
Why can't we understand that dating is something we shouldn't attack men about?
Why have we stopped giving men the initiative to think and act on their own will?
And when have we started confusing empowerment with rudeness, arrogance and bullying?

We do not want to behave like the men that kept the right to vote from us.
Then why have we started behaving like them?

A majority of modern men are open, willing and supportive of the feminist movements.
We need to shift our mindset to a team work basis instead of a constant fight.

And yes, there are men that are against feminism.
But if we want to create a society where men are brave enough to approach women and strong enough to stay by our side, we need to start trusting men more and start working together against the few that do not want this change!

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