Energy Vampires

My friend's definition was spot on: 'Energy Vampires'.

The ones that pursue to be your friends while emotionally drowning you.
People using their favourite technique i.e. psychological and emotional manipulation.

If you happen to be a soft-hearted person, they can easily manipulate and use you.
Every time you hear them crying you feel sorry for them and try to make them feel better.

When these behaviours however, become a routine, this becomes very worrying.

At first they will be calling asking for help and you will be happy to help them.
Gradually these phone calls will become intense and their requests more demanding.

You end up suffocating because they give you no space to breathe.
They stalk you on social media and call you whenever you are online. They call in inappropriate times asking for something and when you do not pick up the phone they repeat their calls and send messages.

These people never ask how you are, how your day was, if you are well.
They never listen to you, they just speak and expect you to listen. .

That's when you know you are dealing with an 'Emotional Vampire'.

Now do not get this wrong. Some people might require your help if they are not well.
However, when you notice that these situations become a routine, you keep on giving without receiving and you feel exhausted afterwards; you should rethink about who you are dealing with.

Energy vampires will NEVER feel bad for bothering you, why should you feel bad for setting up you boundaries?

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