Stop Being So Selfish

People complain about the fact that there are no good women/no good men to date in today's society.
And I cannot resist to ask:

What is the definition of a good man?
What is the definition of a good woman?
Who even defines that?

I keep on listening to people complaining and blaming the opposite sex for everything that goes wrong in dating but no one really talks about the solution to this 'problem'.
That is not a battlefield.
Once you start blaming the opposite sex without taking your share in the blame then you are already loosing.

Don't we all want to be with someone that will support, encourage and help us? Someone to be by our side and put up with us every day? Someone we will choose and him/her choosing us too? Someone to rely on? Someone to love and be loved  by?

SO why don't we find a middle ground? The golden rule where we can complete each other and not blame the opposite sex.

On the other hand however, we need to consider that we live in a society that WE have build.
A society easily entertained and amused.
A society which thinks that easy is good, no effort is necessary.
And this results in a society that settles down for less than what it really deserves.

Is it fair then to complain about good women or men if we go for the easy stuff ourselves?
Do we even take a moment to consider the fact that maybe we are not a good woman/man?
Then why do we expect someone else to be?
If we do not try to be what we want to attract, how can we demand someone else to be what we want?
How selfish is that...?

#foodforthought

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